- a recently married person
- Exhausted individuals attempting to share the same space
- Two really in love people sharing the same toilet after signing legal documents
Marriage is a lot of things!
Great things, bad things, annoying things, funny things, loving things, etc.. The shiny rings and perfect photos are only the beginning of so many perfect and not perfect things.
You REALLY get to know the other person and he or she REALLY gets to know you.
If you’re like me, a wallflower or person in general whom did not live with anyone before marriage, lemme just say I feel you.
Not only did I overachieve at not living with a man before I was married I also overachieved at not living with any girlfriends before I was married (I am not saying this is life goals).
Yes, you’re correct.
I’m just now learning to share.
I haven’t ever done life with someone the way I am doing life with Zachariah. Weird habits that I hid from the world but privately enjoyed are now exposed. For example, eating chocolate ice cream in bed NOT WITH A SPOON but WITH HOT CHEETOS. I also really like to drench my face with coconut spray and give myself dramatic facials while making fake vlogs of myself.
I know it’s weird.
Also, it has been brought to my attention that while I am clearly a hilarious person I am also very messy.
For the record, I want to say subjectively messy.
Life is so different now.
Zachariah and I are bound by a covenant of God.
That’s some pretty powerful stuff.
We’ve agreed to do life together for better or for worse.
I don’t think either of us realized what marriage was going to be like. I don’t think anyone can prepare you for it either. I read a slew of books (great books) but those books did not prepare me for marriage. I talked with a lot of really credible people with awesome marriages but they didn’t prepare me for marriage.
These books and people had great advice. Advice, I cherish and use daily. It’s just walking a mile in their shoes and my shoes are completely different things. We’re all different. Our spouses are different. The families we come from are different. Everything is different.
Marriage can be hard even for people barely married a month. Being a newlywed is a time for growth and development. Don’t let the petty arguments and only hilarious after the fact fights ruin a good thing.
When two people become one it isn’t seamless. It’s work!
It’s okay to dread the sound of your husband’s alarm clock but secretly enjoy the fact that he wakes up and sometimes makes you waffles.
It’s okay to be salty over whose turn it is to put away the laundry.
You will fight. Embrace it.
You will laugh. Enjoy it.
And for the love of all things holy please do not let anyone else’s opinions of your marriage or your partner overshadow your own! I cannot stress this enough. Unless you’re in a dangerous and unhealthy situation you have no reason to listen to people’s negative assumptions, opinions, and factoids about your union.
Tell them to go suck a fat toe.
Ain’t nobody got time for that.
Being a newlywed is really so much fun! Sure, you’ve got your negative aspects such as not being able to blast 80’s pop music and practice using duct tape as a bra without getting looked at funny from your husband but there’s a lot of good things too.
I really enjoy living with my husband. I love showering him with love and making him dinner. Being a wife is my jam! It makes my heart sing. I love binge watching Parks and Rec with him while contemplating the best way to save five dollars.
It’s our thing.
I look forward to seeing him every single day (even if I’m mad at him). It warms my soul to know there is a human who loves me so much that to him I only come second to God.
Oh, my partner, my husband, my human chair (I like to sit on him), my grumpy love cake. I am head over heels for him. I am the biggest fan of our marriage.
I would get a tattoo of it on my face.
Okay, I am not actually getting a tattoo of our marriage on my face but please understand my dramatic reference.
Becoming a wife and not an independent woman who don’t need no man has been weird!
Don’t get it twisted. I am still independent. I am still me. I’m still Fierce, hyper, and oddly eccentric.
But I am also a wife and I’ve pledged my love to a man who I won’t fail.
I am used to sucking it up, bearing the weight of my world, and doing stuff on my own. I am used to doing life my way. Sometimes a choir of angels emerges while the room slowly fills with glitter and I celebrate an achievement. Other times a can of soda has stained my carpet for the millionth time and the dementors from Harry Potter try to suck out my soul.
Only now my husband is there for those moments too.
It’s a pretty sweet deal.
Being a newlywed is new.
Something NEW is always exciting just like it is challenging.
I look forward to celebrating anniversaries and offering my own corny marriage advice one day when being a newlywed is a sweet memory.
I wouldn’t trade my marriage to Zachariah for a micro pig or anything else for that matter.
I love him. I love us.
And you can too.
Your marriage is what you and your person make it.
Make it wonderful & remember a little salt adds flavor.
All personal images were taken by Taylor Lowe. An incredible photographer with a super cute baby. You can find her on Instagram @TaylorLowePhotography or by clicking the link below: